This Year, to Save Me from Tear, I'll Give it to Someone Special

Dear Reader,


You have heard the song, "Last Christmas," right? Well, today I want to use that song, a chapter from Alma in the Book of Mormon and my insights to address the topic of dating/marriage. I want men to pay special attention, because I feel that women hear stuff like this much more than we do. To start off, let's see the lyrics to the chorus of the song I'm for today:

Last Christmas, I gave you my heart

And the very next day, you gave it away

This year, to save me from tear, 

I'll give it to someone special

I thought of this song because of a few sayings that some of my friends have posted on social media, my favorite of which is, "Dance with God; He will let the right man cut in." Between the song and that phrase, the idea came to mind that as men, we don't really have that mentality. We (I speak for men, but obviously there are exceptions) don't feel the need to be close to God in order to be a good boyfriend/husband. I submit that this is exactly what we need to to do. We need to be closer to Heavenly Father in order to be good men for the women in our lives. We need to give our hearts to God, the most special person there is. 

Now, with that in mind, I want to share with you a little piece of what I was thinking about while reading the story of Alma and Amulek from the Book of Mormon. For those not familiar with the story, Alma goes to preach the word of God to a city in ancient America and finds shelter in the house of Amulek, who decides to help him spread the word of God and call the people in the city to repentance. After successfully humbling the proud leaders in the town, they share some great insights. 

"It is given unto many to know the mysteries of God; nevertheless they are laid under a strict command that they shall not impart only according to the portion of his word which he doth grant unto the children of men, according to the heed and diligence which they give unto him." (Alma 12:9)

In other words, we cannot share what we do not have. We cannot share the Gospel and our relationship with God with our significant other if we do not have it. We need to have "heed and diligence" to Him in order to be able to share it. 

"For our words will condemn us, yea, all our works will condemn us; we shall not be found spotless...But this cannot be; we must come forth and stand before him in his glory, and in his power, and in his might majesty, and dominion..." (Alma 12:14-15)

It is our job, men, to also be close to God. That way, when the right girl comes along, we will recognize it. Let us give our hearts to God this year, so he can give it to someone else when the time is right.